BREAK THE [WOUNDS + UNAWARENESS] CYCLE!

hello, i am new. I didn't realize i was a GWC too. I have read a book called living the truth by keith ablow and i took tests about myself. i'm 23 yrs old and i knew i had a problem. my problem cant be fix until i have a job to get on with my life. ive lived in misery for 7 yrs since i was 10 yrs old. thanx to my parents who put me there.

i feel so disconnected from people that i cant even communicate. i cant even approach ppl with confidence and bring ppl to me like i used too. all of that was lost when i was 10 when my family and i moved from CA to AZ in 96. PPl in my family seem to think im crazy and don't have a serious problem. Everybody else wants to live in a fantasy world!

my childhood was so poor, it has taken a toll on my people skills. my parents felt like having a social life doesnt mean anything but it does when it comes to getting a job and networking, i guess they forgot about that!!

i never understand how to overcome childhood issues, nobody doesnt seem to think i have an issue. ppl tell me to let it go im like how? i got intense hate for my parents, until i get my revenge in family court, then i will be good to go. nobody in my family didn't help me so i gave up. i keep my feelings repressed but i lash out at men all the time. i had a bad anger since i was a child, get it from my parents but my mom the worst since she just screams like some dumb ignorant xxx who doesnt know when to shut up.

how did anyone over come bein a gwc?

Hi Lady! Welcome aboard.

I am a GWC and while I am nowhere near whole (and never will be) I have found that learning to live with psychological trauma and permanent emotional damage starts with learning more about developmental psychology. So keep reading self help books like "Im ok! Your ok!" "Choice Therapy" "Reality Therapy" etc.
I believe that emotional damage is caused primarily by being raised in a single parent home (not all) or with parents who are severely dysfunctional (alcoholic,codependant, etc.
The root of most problems can be traced to the relationship between mom and dad. If a little girls father don't really love her mother and disrespects her then the little girl will also feel unloved, disrespected and lonely.
We can't change our past, but we can change the future by what we do today and thereby change tomorrows past. Did your parents love and respect each other?

pitwise123 wrote:Hi Lady! Welcome aboard.

I am a GWC and while I am nowhere near whole (and never will be) I have found that learning to live with psychological trauma and permanent emotional damage starts with learning more about developmental psychology. So keep reading self help books like "Im ok! Your ok!" "Choice Therapy" "Reality Therapy" etc.
I believe that emotional damage is caused primarily by being raised in a single parent home (not all) or with parents who are severely dysfunctional (alcoholic,codependant, etc.
The root of most problems can be traced to the relationship between mom and dad. If a little girls father don't really love her mother and disrespects her then the little girl will also feel unloved, disrespected and lonely.
We can't change our past, but we can change the future by what we do today and thereby change tomorrows past. Did your parents love and respect each other?

no, they didnt never did. well, my mom said for the 1st 10 yrs of her marriage i believe, it was fine. its been 43 yrs of marriage no respect for each other. my dad has had a mistress for 36 yrs and my mom is so damn weak with no backbone is still in the marriage.

We should all get together and make congress repeal the consenting adult law! people that cheat on their spouse should have to pay a..BIG.. fine. Thats what I think. What do you think?

get the movie: "The Namesake" if you want to see what a good marriage looks like and what happens when their kids are raised in america.

Check out these cites:

Children of Divorce

Anti-pornography league

Attachment parenting

I believe there are several reasons marriage is falling apart in the modern age and one of them is young people are brainwashed to marry the wrong people. This results in damaged, dysfunctional kids who grow up to make even worse marital choices so their kids will be more screwed up than they were and it gets worse with every generation. Thats what I like about this cite, its all about BREAKING THE CHAIN!