BREAK THE [WOUNDS + UNAWARENESS] CYCLE!

Welcome to this unique Forum! The ancient family roles of "stepmother" and "stepfather" are both the same and very different from "biomother" and biofather." Personal and stepfamily harmony depend on adults and kids agreeing on what these roles are and how to "do them well."

This forum is for anyone needing to vent, problem-solve, and get validation and support for mastering the challenging role of stepparent. The first step in doing this is for all your stepfamily adults to agree "We are a normal stepfamily." The next step is to get clear on the developmental and special needs of typical stepkids. Can you adults name them yet? The third step is to negotiate what each family co-parent (including grandparents, aunts, and uncles) is responsible for in nurturing each child.

Can you define an "effective co-parent"? Compare your definition to this. Also study these Q&A items about effective stepparenting and stepkids.

Get clear on what you need here, and join others like you in learning how to enjoy your roles and family!